Hi, I sexed my pair by the two spines that are present just at the posterior end of the fish's cloaca. when next you are in my neck of the woods, call in and I will point out the difference. Despite what has been written about the male having an "bulkier" jaw, this comes and goes depending on weather he is brooding eggs or not. The females also have the ability to puff out the jaw when they display to each other and to the males.
Cheers, Chris.